ABOUT RIGHT, LOGISTICS, AND DOSTOYEVSKY
According to one character from Griboyedov’s play, happy people are traditionally careless of time. Apparently, we are all very happy, since we can hardly organize our time. What is our mistake? To find out an answer, the EWC journalists interviewed Lilia Nazarycheva, a mother of three children, Head of the Secretariat of the Chief of the Court, Class 3 State Advisor on Justice of the Russian Federation, Honorary Worker of Justice.
– You have three children. How did they influence your life?
– Nothing stimulates my self-development more than women. It is nice when a woman has a choice between family and career. But it often happens that life does not provide you with such choice. Combining career and family is important, mainly because children want to see their moms being socially active. I have always worked and never sat at home, except for my maternity leave, when my babies needed maximum attention. And I managed everything.
But if I'm at work, it does not mean that my children are always left to themselves. I am a woman who is not ready to sacrifice my family well-being for my career.
– How old are your children? How do you share household chores with your spouse?
– Mark is 16 years old. And my daughters, Maria and Sophia are 14 and 8 years old. The thing is that I am not married yet.
– Did you bring up your children alone?
– Yes. And the main thing here is proper organization. Family is based on the same principles as work. They are time management, delegating and monitoring. If a woman knows how to organize her time, then she does it successfully both at work and in family life. My children are absolutely independent, and I'm glad because of that. After school my son regularly goes to a swimming pool. Maria goes in for Georgian dancing. It is not far, that is why after 6 p.m. they are at home. My older children also study at a Spanish school. But it is also near our home. Logistics should be thought out. This makes life very easy.
So, what's the point of my staying at home all the time with such an organization? Moreover, the state provided me with an additional day off. I spend all these three days with my family.
– What else should one do to manage everything?
– Use a notebook. It helps combine personal and official life and not to forget what you have planned. I divide it into things planned for a week regarding my work and household chores and write them down.
I get up very early, at 5:30 a.m., and the idea is that I don’t like hurrying. Between an extra hour of sleeping and getting ready for work calmly I always choose the second variant. I should be at ‘full battle readiness’ before my children wake up. And then I can plunge into social life. Maybe, this is bad from the point of view of medicine, but I can’t do it in a different way.
– Why did you choose jurisprudence?
– Initially, I wanted to be an economist. That is why I tried to go to the Financial Academy, but did not manage to enter it. Then it seemed to me that my life turned upside down. But now I understand that that showed me the right way. Shortly after that I entered the Law Academy and graduated with a red diploma. This year I can celebrate 22 years of my working in the judicial system. The state appreciated my contribution. I was titled Honorary Worker of Justice.
Everything started with my applying for a job in the Moscow Region State Commercial Court at the age of 18. I worked there until the Court of Intellectual Rights was established. I immediately wanted to join it. This court was something new and unexplored.
– What is your current work in the court?
– Management and organizing work is my most favorite occupation. Almost everything depends on the team of your colleagues. We have a nice team there. It is amazing to work with Luydmila Novosyolova, Chair of the Court of Intellectual Rights. She is very sincere, decent and intelligent. I respect and even adore her.
I also want to note that there has never been a question about my having many children. Nobody ever doubted that I could cope with something due to this reason. Only my professional skills were important in that situation. Our court pays much attention to protecting the rights of mothers.
– What qualities should women have in order to successfully realize their potential in jurisprudence?
– Not only women but also men should be able first of all to see the general picture at once. A person should have the understanding of case he has before his eyes. Then he or she plunges in the details and ‘turns on’ analytical thinking. Naturally, in jurisprudence it is important to be an honest and decent person. It has been well said that court is guided solely by its innermost conviction. This conviction should correspond to opinion of society and, first of all, to law.
– What is the role of women in jurisprudence?
– Now the profession is becoming more and more women’s one. In my opinion, this is a positive trend. We provide a number of discussions regarding protection of rights of women and children. Only women can objectively assess the situation.
– What should people know about your profession?
– This is a difficult profession. A lawyer must be very responsible, because he affects destinies of people. In my opinion, lawyers and doctors are of equal significance in society.
If I didn’t enter the faculty of law, I would chose the faculty of medicine. I'm eager to try myself in this field as well. My mother works in medicine, and when I was a child I read all the medical books we had at home.
However, a doctor’s mistake can have fatal consequences. Fortunately, lawyers don’t share the same responsibility, since there are other higher instances over judges. Mistakes made by one court can be fixed by another court. A lawyer’s mistake will be in its turn fixed by the court. That is why lawyers are more protected from mistakes than doctors are. However, in terms of being useful for society, they are equal.
– Every doctor advices patients to pay more attention to disease prevention. What prevention would you recommend as a lawyer?
– A person must study legislation and be law-abiding in order not to break the law out of ignorance. All our life is laws, and knowing them is very important. This makes live safer.
– Have you ever crossed against the lights?
– Never! I often walk with my children. I should be a role model for them. That is why even if the road is empty we wait for the green signal before crossing it.
– There are psychological tests with questions like “You can stow away, no one will notice you, what will you do?”. How to raise children, so that even in such a situation they remain law-abiding?
– I would not do this myself. This behavior gives rise to a sense of shame before yourself. I must say, I really love Goethe's Faust. And the most important thought in this book is the following: do not deceive yourself.
And as for raising children… My son, for example, does not need to be taught such things. In fact, it is he who brings me up. He has an innate sense of law and order. He lives with a clear civil position. He is law-abiding, he has his own opinion about everything, and he would never have become a stowaway. He took part in the work of the international UN model in terms of Moscow State Institute of International Relations. He chose a topic ‘Problems of Nazism and racism and other forms of discrimination’.
This year the Ambassador of Spain awarded him a diploma as the best student of the gymnasium and offered to study in Spain. Nevertheless, Mark said he wanted to stay in Russia.
– Did his extracurricular activity influence his civil position, patriotism and being tolerant?
– Yes, probably. I think this is not the only reason. We have a tradition of reading in our family. I buy paper books. I don’t insist on my children’s reading. They take books independently. For example, my son is fond of history. He has read almost every book at home.
– Including Nikolay Karamzim?
– Not all of his works, but, probably, he will make me buy 12 volumes by Karamzin. (Laughs).
Our family also reads Fyodor Dostoyevsky. For me he is a remarkable author. Once it took me just one night to read Crime and Punishment. But I read his works only in autumn, since his books are not that optimistic.
– Did literature somehow influence your choice of profession?
– No, in fact, my parents tried to influence my choice. They wanted me to study at the faculty of economics. But, as you see, I managed to make my choice myself. When I entered the faculty of law, I saw myself in criminal proceedings. I wanted to investigate. But in this field you can easily lose all of your femininity. This is a dangerous job. In addition, you do not see your family for a long time.
– What is the role of coincidence and chance in your life?
– My life is a story of coincidence and chance. Meetings with people like Luydmila Novosyolova are lucky accidents. I am grateful to her for her faith in me and such an opportunity for self-realization.
One must not be afraid of failure. Every failure is always followed by some happy accident. One can’t kick off bottom without reaching it. Thanks to challenges, you can assess your actions and avoid making mistakes in the future. Failure is a signal of something good future has in store for us.
Agata Korovina, news agency of the Eurasian Women’s Community
Translated by Nikolay Gavrilov