How to Bring Up Happy Children
Viktoria Shimanskaya’s recipe for happiness
Viktoria Shimanskaya has been engaged in developing emotional intelligence in Russia for many years already. She delivers lectures and workshops in the leading higher education institutions of Russia and shares her knowledge with not only qualified professionals, businesspersons, and young specialists but also with schoolchildren. Ms. Shimanskaya believes that proper identification of one’s emotions, feelings, and worries and the ability to manage them are the key to one’s success. The expert shared her advice on how adults can influence proper formation of consciousness of the rising generation.
Viktoria Shimanskaya - PhD in Psychology at IAACC, Russia’s leading expert on development of emotional intelligence, Director on Educational Programmes at SKILLFOLIO
Ms. Shimanskaya bases all her activities on the concept of lifelong development and fulfilment of potential of a person. The expert believes that those people who found their place in life, heard the inner voice, and followed it become happy. To do that, it is important to start properly forming children’s consciousness from an early age. Parents, especially mothers who are primarily responsible for bringing up the rising generation have a significant role in this process.
“It is important that parents help children unleash their potential, pay attention to what their children are good at and what pleases them, and tell them about how they can be useful to people around”, believes Viktoria Shimanskaya. In this case, in the future people will be able to find their vocation, enjoy in course of their self-fulfilment, make professional success, and thus become happy.
“Every person is talented. The recipe of happiness is simple: it is necessary to reveal talent in people”, she shares.
Ms. Shimanskaya pays much attention to the topic of harmonious development of children, interrelation of physical and intellectual progress, and emotional-volitional sphere. According to her, 5 key factors influence the formation of personality at an early age. Adults must consider them when creating the educational environment for favourable development of the rising generation.
Thus, one must responsibly approach five basic questions when organising educational process. What is taught? How is it taught? Who teaches? In what environment does the educational process take place? What emotional trace does the educational process leave?
Thus, in kindergartens or in schools, children must acquire specific skills and knowledge that will be useful in their lives and help reveal their potential. At the same time, one should remember that within the development process children unconsciously absorb a certain model of acquiring knowledge: they learn to learn. The method of conveying information used by a school or kindergarten teacher impacts on how people perceive and absorb the knowledge in the future.
The teacher’s teacher is also an important element. A teacher is in many ways a role model for his or her students. As shown by Viktoria Shimanskaya’s polls conducted during her lectures, the students remember the behaviour, character, and life values of their teachers well. People are also strongly influenced by the environment, in which they receive knowledge. A child learns to interact with agemates and masters role-model behaviours.
Any education leaves a certain emotional trace in a person. A child remembers being praised or criticised, being given the right to make a mistake. Adults must responsibly approach their own words. They must not impose stereotypes on children and undermine their self-esteem or raise it too high.
Harmonious combination of the five components will help create a favourable educational environment. People will be able to confidently live their lives and gain pleasure from self-fulfilment in professions they choose.
“Emotions are interesting due to the fact that they can spread quickly. When we smile at people around we literally infect them with our joy. Thus, the number of happy people grows exponentially”, explains Viktoria Shimanskaya.
The expert believes that this will have a positive impact on our entire planet in the future. Happy people have unique creative energy.
By smiling at one another and sharing our kindness, we contribute to filling the world with happiness and ensure that the society has more successful and creation-oriented people.
On May 16, there will be a free lecture-training for teachers and parents. Russia’s leading specialists will tell about the harmonious development of children.
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Anna Repina, news agency of the Eurasian Women’s Community
Translated by Nikolay Gavrilov